How to Write your own Wedding Vows

So… you're standing in front of all your favourite people, about to promise forever to the love of your damn life — no pressure, right? Here's some tips on how to write your own wedding vows!

Writing your vows doesn’t need to feel like Year 9 English. There’s no gold star, no need to be poetic (unless you are a poet ;-), and definitely no requirement to sound like a rom-com.

Here’s a simple little structure to help get your thoughts flowing — heartfelt, hilarious or somewhere in-between.

Start with a line that feels like you

Something simple. Honest. A way to begin. Try speaking straight from the gut, not the Hallmark aisle.

Examples:

• From the moment you made me laugh-snort at that café, I was all in.

• I still can’t believe I get to call you mine.

• I had no idea love could look like slow mornings, snacks in bed, and the way you always find my keys.

• You're the only person I'd happily share my last dumpling with.

List the things you adore about them

Think beyond “kind” and “funny” (though those are lovely). What’s the weird stuff? The specific, beautiful chaos that is your person?

Ideas:

• The way they know exactly how you like your coffee (and your gossip)

• That they’ll always hold your hand under the table when things get tough

• How they believe in you more than you believe in yourself

• Their terrible, wonderful taste in reality TV

Make some promises — real, playful, or both

Here’s where you commit. Big love. Big laughs. Real life. These can be soft and serious, or have a wink and a nudge. Whatever feels true.

Examples:

• I promise to always be on your team, even when we disagree.

• I promise to keep our fridge stocked with your weird oat milk, no matter how many brands you try.

• I promise to grow with you, learn with you, and never stop choosing you.

  
  

Tell them what you look forward to in the future together!

Dream out loud. Say the stuff that gives you butterflies or keeps you grounded.

Examples:

• I hope we never stop dancing in the kitchen

• I hope we build a home that always feels like safety

• I hope we keep turning ordinary days into magic

• I hope to one day sleep through your snoring (but I’m not holding my breath)

End it your way

Finish strong. It could be short, poetic, silly or sassy. Totally up to you.

Examples:

• So let’s do this — love, life, laundry and all.

• I’d pick you in every lifetime.

• Here’s to choosing each other, every messy, beautiful day.

• Alright. Let’s get hitched.

Final thoughts

There’s no wrong way to write vows. They don’t need to rhyme. They don’t need to be long. They just need to sound like you.

So, take a breath, pour a wine (or a herbal tea, no judgment), and just start. Think of it as a love letter to your person — and don’t be afraid to throw in a little mischief with the mush.

You’ve got this.